Lewis Call in his book entitled as BDSM in American Science Fiction and Fantasy has pointed out that "Fantasy is central to kink because it allows desire to expand beyond the boundaries imposed by biology. As Moser and Kleinplatz (2007) have observed, "the range of sexual behaviors (limited only by human, physical capacities) is dwarfed by the range of sexual fantasies and desires which are unlimited" (36). Or as some kinksters like to say, fantasies are hungrier than bodies." (Call, 10). In an essay "Yes, Women Fantasize: The Psychology Behind The Most Common Female Sexual Fantasies", published in Elite Daily, Alexia LaFata says that "Submission fantasies are a surprisingly common category, and they include everything from simply giving in to the desires of a dominant man, to BDSM, to …show more content…
These fantasies tap into the question, "To what extent is the personal political?" That is if you're a feminist and a strong, powerful woman, why would the idea of completely submitting yourself to someone else be such a turn-on?" On another instance she says that "In some ways, according to Dr. Leon F. Seltzer, a woman putting herself in a sexually submissive role is the ultimate level of control because it's such a stark variant from what she would do in real life. The element of control here is having the choice to make such an extreme decision. Forced submission, as is the case with real rape or sexual assault, is obviously not a choice. In a submission fantasy, however, a woman wants to be submissive. In other words, it is her choice to do so." (LaFata). Saul McLeod in his essay "Defense Mechanisms" defines defense mechanisms as "psychological strategies that are unconsciously used to protect a person from anxiety arising from unacceptable thoughts or feelings." (McLeod). He wrote quite a convincing essay on this topic pinpointing all kinds