My conflict management styles are pretty spread out. I was not surprised to find out that my top two conflict management styles are the competing and accommodating styles. The reason I was not surprised was because of the exercise done previously. While thinking back to the past I realized that my style is definitely completive because I like to win and there is nothing wrong with that. What did not surprise me at all was the fact that my lowest score was for avoiding style. I know that I don’t run away from my problems but, at the same time I did not expect to score so highly in the aggressive style either.
Management Style My primary management style is the competitive style and, my back up style is the accommodative style. …show more content…
This assignment forced me to think about previous conflicts and carefully consider how I managed the situation. For instance last month a friend and I were fighting about her broken heart. She had just broken up with her boyfriend and said that her heart was broken. I responded with a statement that really upset her. I told her that it was all in her head because a broken heart is not physical therefore it’s not real pain. Keep in mind that I did not mean to upset her, it was just a statement that I believed in at the time. After going back and forth for about a half hour she pulled out Mr. Internet and looked it up. She was able to prove me wrong and I backed down and admitted that she was …show more content…
As I mentioned earlier I may say things that I don’t perceive as arrogant or rude but others might. And I fight to get my point across which can come across as aggressive. Sure I could hold my tongue and not say what I think but, that is just another way of running away. Is that really any better? I believe that facing your problems head on is the only way to go and, if people don’t like it that’s their problem. And that is the reason that this particular conflict management style can put a strain on different relationships but there is one major advantage to this style. The advantage is that the relationships you do make are stronger than most.
Changes
I would like re-train my brain to think differently when it comes to solving conflict. I know that a person does not have to be right about everything, they don’t have to win every fight. I understand that now but, in the heat of an argument it’s difficult to come back to that understanding. I have to learn to calm myself down in order to reach a point where I know that it’s okay to lose the argument. The first step to achieving this is to learn to accommodate conflict. Accommodation was my back up style after all so if I can find a way to combine the conflicts then the result will be extraordinary.