The process of loving matters more than the result. If the evaluation of everything only depends on the outcomes, every individual’s life is a failure since death is the destination. Even though Abelard was castrated and the couple separated themselves and when they got older, their love seemed to decrease; they make their own mutual decisions when accidents happened and the initiative matters because love does not necessarily represent the pathway to marriage but a state which two people make mutual decisions and think of them as a new individual. They loved each other and …show more content…
Heloise acts exactly as a strong individual in the relationship. People argue that she is not a feminist since she “takes the veil on the command of her husband and swears ‘complete obedience’ to him, but feminism does not represent a checklist of symbolic accomplishments but is the idea that women also have rights of being heard and respected. Heloise claims her demands clearly in the relationship and acts as an individual rather than a dependent. For instance, even after her pregnancy, she refused Abelard’s request of marriage since she holds her view that “love has no business with the law or money or social safety nets.” Her strong sense of self indicates that even if they did not end up getting married, she preserves her identity and the preservation can only happen in great and healthy romantic