Being an African American and Hispanic female from a middle class family with a fairly religious background living in an urban …show more content…
Living in a society that oppresses female sexuality it is hard to explore your own sexual desires. We face a lot of stigmatism that our male counterparts do not have to worry about. In the readings “Doing Desire: Adolescent girls’ struggles for/with sexuality”, and “Gendered Sexuality in Young Adulthood: Double Binds and Flawed Options” these females struggle with their sexuality and finding adequate ways to deal with their desires because of this “slut shaming” stigma. My father would always tell me to be careful with how I interact with males because I do not want to get a bad reputation. I would always keep that in mind and I believe that is another reason why I did not acknowledge my sexual desires until I was exposed to a more liberal environment. When you are so used to being told this is bad, you have to act this way to be “normal” you tend to believe it. Males are taught and expected from an early age to explore their sexuality and that it is okay for them to do so. In the readings, “The Girl Hunt: Urban Nightlife and the Performance of Masculinity as Collective Action” and “Guys are just Homophobic” being able to get girls is seen as masculine, it is what makes you a man. This gender difference on sexuality plays a huge role on my being a female in today’s …show more content…
I’ve adapted a feminist perspective when it comes to my sexuality. Through my sexual experiences, I have learned a lot about what I like and what I want when engaging in sex. Being that I have the experience and enjoy sex I do not feel that women should be oppressed for something that is a part of natural instinct. If men can have casual sex and explore what they like women should be able to do so also. I never really had a relationship, so casual sex and hook ups have always been a part of my sexual experience. I have plenty of friends who have been in relationships that were not great and that has played a role on why I have not engaged in one. I have always had this ideology of getting married and having a family and how I feel a relationship should be because of my family. I have come to a standstill in finding what I would like in a relationship and trying to figure out what I want for my life career wise. That is why casual sex is something that is convenient for more because I can have the sex that I want and do not have to deal with the burden of a relationship while I am trying to figure my life