I had played soccer for about ten years. At that time, my aggressions were often justified. In the game, pulling, hitting, leaning on, and knocking down are common behaviors and I have never doubted they are aggressions. When I think about my behaviors now, most of them were instrumental aggression. To get a ball in front of opposites and in good condition, I often pulled and pushed opposites. I justified these behaviors, because they were needed to win the game. However, sometimes hostile aggression happened. In my opinion, if I got aggressive behaviors such as knocking down, I knocked a opposite back. I focused to revenge and hurt. Anger created many aggressions and those aggressions were justified, because opposite did at first.
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In sports, soccer players’ aggressive behaviors are fine to win the game, but attacking from the back regards as immoral behavior, because opposites cannot expect and then have high possibility to injure. In protecting someone, what soldiers fight to opposite countries to protect own country is fine, but if the opposites surrender and there are citizens, soldiers should not kill them. In making someone better, what parents use verbal aggression and physical aggression like punishment to educate their children is fine, but too strict physical aggression and indirect aggression such as abuse are not …show more content…
This was my belief when I played sports. However, I like watching movie and reading comic books, and I often heard the sentence, “Revenge only creates revenge”. It is a very important sentence for me. People around me always describe my characteristic is cool, because my feeling doesn’t run high. When I got any aggressions, I tend to analyze the situation and justify their aggressions. For example, when my friend use indirect or verbal aggression, I think he is busy now or his emotion is not stable, so he ignores or says such a thing. By analyzing the situation, my motivation to behave aggressively is decreased. I also think even if I lose a friend, I have many other friends. I think positively. According to the textbook, Aronson (2013) describes “If I have a positive self-view, it is easy for me to see and accept myself as accomplishing positive things; on the other hand, a threat to this positive self-view must be defended against – perhaps through denial or a good excuse” (173). This sentence fit me. I think positively and avoid negative things on purpose. This is called ego-defensive behavior. I have already experienced that thinking negatively gives me depression and increase frustration. Changing the result positively helps me not to behave