While structure may imply a fixed condition, there remains evolving aspects of the family organization and adjustments are needed in order to accommodate for others in the family and within the community (Nichols, 2016). For example, the episode opens with an awkward “welcome meal” for Allison by the staff at the HMO where she finds out that Ken has been telling personal stories about their personal life. Allison proclaimed “Let’s have a moratorium on intimate details about our personal life” and Ken replied to the staff “We need to stop talking about Allison when I say don’t tell Allison” (Jeong, 2016). This is a direct example of the Park couple trying to accommodate each other in the work place as they try to discover the parameters of their work environment structure. More accommodations can be seen in the Parks household as they try to negotiate with D.K.’s “hard core Korean” ways with their established family patterns of everyday American …show more content…
Joining will allow me into the family structure by accommodating to their character patterns so that I am able to use restructuring exercises to revise the family structure (Nichols, 2016). Because Ken does not understand how his father and mother could grow apart and get a divorce and not tell him until two years afterward, I must try to break the cycle of misunderstanding by offering empathy. Consequently, the empathy I offer by joining the family may provide the empathy needed within the family structure that each of the Parks was not able to provide. Therefore, I want to attend to Kens point of view of being left in the dark, D.K.’s concern for privacy and need to protect the family, Allison’s and Molly’s need to help the men emote, and Dave’s feelings of being “doomed to be alone because I am a grandson of divorce” ( Jeong, 2016). By hearing and acknowledging each person’s feelings about the divorce, I will gain more information and this in turn may help each of the Parks to begin to discharge resentment an unheard