Personality is a major deficit to this problem because the child’s personality will constantly change, until they figure out what will best suit them which can take up to a few years. These changes also reinforce the idea that the child will push their parents away because their peers will have a larger part in the shaping of their personalities. Once the child begins to realize that they do not know who they are or who they want to be this can cause them to go through a severe personality changing breaking point (McLeod, 2008). When the child reaches the breaking point it is up to them to find themselves, and any help from others that are trying to help them shape the children can cause a detrimental downfall to the child’s personality as well as rebellion from the child toward the person attempting to help them. Hence why the child must be able to find themselves without the help of elders. The child will depend more heavily on the people who surround them with friendship and other community organizations which they look upon to the people for helping them get through this process of …show more content…
That hurts the child and it broke my heart to watch you hurt but it was character building for the long run.” My mom also said, “I would always give you a certain amount of independence that was needed in order for you to make choices but protecting you from things, such as media which would give girls the wrong idea of what their body image should look like. Boys would come around next and this was the worst part because we had to know that we trusted you to make the right decisions but we also offered you guidance and gave things to keep you safe like birth control. As parents, we had to learn to lose battles sometimes because when you go into the work world not everyone will tell you that you’re wonderful. You had a ton of self-confidence when you were a child which helped us to understand what boundaries we could set for you knowing we could trust you. Self-esteem was good for an academic standpoint, you were told you would not make it into a good college and have options so you were placed into a private school where you blossomed. You were a blessing to